How to overcome rejection : One step a day

(Last Updated On: December 26, 2012)

Rejection is a popular fear (at least among many other things) among us all. We all go through rejections every day, and they’re sometimes minor sometimes major. For some folks, they don’t matter much, but for a few it is a big deal. So much that it could affect them negatively.


Handling rejection needs skills, and we all have our own way of dealing with it.

But what Jia Jiang does to handle rejection is unique (and weird). He’s doing a 100 day therapy, where he’s willfully taking one rejection (trying out his fears, to be precise) a day to tactfully get over and conquer them. I think its a great way to learn.

Here’s what he has to say.

I am going through 100 days of Rejection Therapy, aiming to have one rejection per day by making crazy requests. My goal is to desensitize myself from the pain of rejection and overcome my fear.

He has done 31 “rejections” so far and documented them on YouTube.

In one video Jia, goes randomly to South West Airlines and ask them if he can make a welcome announcement on the flight. If I was in his situation, I would never do that, because that is for sure absurd and strange. But Jia’s request is granted! Who would’ve thought?

Here’s the video.

Just goes out to say that most of the things we think (or presume) as impossible may actually be possible. I remember this one concept about motivation I’ve heard before, the which compares ourselves to elephants.

It says that, we’re all like elephants with our potential. Elephants are chained with chains. We all know that those chains are incapable of locking them up, but since the elephant has been chained from its childhood with the same chain, it grows with the idea that the chain is ever so powerful to hold it.

Many a times, we’re all chained by our own fears – which are most of the times, in reality a block put up by our own mind, unreal.

Jia’s experiments are proof to this.

Here’s an interesting video, where he goes asking for a compliment to random strangers in Costco.

Check out his blog here, twitter here, facebook here and videos here.

We all have different kinds of fears in us, some of them we bury, some of them we fight. I haven’t seen anything like Jia is doing do overcome them, though.

What a great thought, and what a way to learn! Hats off Jia. Please give him all the support you can.